Confusion will always be a problem. If you pay attention to this video by Genesis (throwback, I know), you may notice a lot of madness going on. That is what confusion causes: a lot of madness. Yet, many people live to cause a lot of confusion. Strange enough, they may even feel that it is a necessity in their lives. Regardless, confusion usually does no one any good.
And I know I may have freaked you out by the old school puppetry. They are pretty ugly and weird looking. But this is a classic song. So get with it.
Sorry about that. I tend to get sidetracked.
Many of us need to wonder what happens when your ex-lover causes the most unnecessary situations and yet wants you to “stick around”.
Question:
Okay, here is my situation:
My ex is causing me too much confusion. She says that she loves me. Yet, she doesn’t spend time trying to get back with me. Instead, she would rather take the time dating others, partying, and having sex. Yet, she wants to consistently tell me that she “still loves me”.
She has had a troubling childhood. There has been issues with her as far as relationships go. Hell, she has even dealt with abuse.
So, I ask you: what should I do?
Answer:
To be real with you, I suggest you take the time to not waste another moment giving her attention unless she seeks help with her issues.
She reminds me of a reality TV show: filled with contradictory and damaging foolishness going on that its appeal is in its lack of logic. When you are dealing with someone like that, they tend to cling to the confusion that they find to be the most worthwhile. They will say one thing (I love you!) just to turn around and do something totally opposite. Yet, they never see where they are going with all of this. For them, their lack of logic and common sense is keeping them afloat.
Meanwhile, their madness is only making you sink. What this situation does is add to the feelings of inadequacy and hope at the same time. All the talk about “I still love you” brings you above the clouds. Then, their actions make you think “Well, if you loved me so much then why are you doing such and such?”. So, the sinking feeling that you feel makes a lot of sense.
Realize this isn’t a Kanye song: you aren’t “suppose to drown” when they are “holding you down”.
It sure is. That is, unless your good girl has the mind of a thousand.
In light of all of this, I propose to you some common sense: tell them to get their stuff together. Better yet, move on with your life so they can gather where they want to be and who they want to be with. All of her confusion is causing you to be confused. Confusion on top of confusion leads to diffusion. Thus, letting her figure out her life is the best resolution.
‘Nuff Said and ‘Nuff Respect!!!
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